'Create
a Life You Love' Newsletter
| ISSUE #26: 'Learn to Say No'
'Life coaching tips on having MORE in your life. More fun, more love, more peace, more excitement.' David Wood, PCC |
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Contents
1. Announcements/Offers
2. FEATURE: 'Learn to Say No!'
3. CoachingClips.com
4. The Personal Touch
5. About the 'Create a Life You Love' Newsletter
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2. FEATURE ARTICLE: Learn to Say No!
How many times have you agreed to do something that you actually didn’t want to do? For someone at work? Your friends? Even your spouse? All you had to do was say no, but the word didn’t come out. So you end up doing it…and later resent it.
A coaching client said to me she was agreeing to things she didn’t want to do, but for some reason, she felt obliged to do them. Instead of taking enjoyment in the task, she would later feel angry with herself and resentful towards the person she had said ‘yes’ to.
So then she went on to list further reasons why she wanted to say no. I stopped her by saying, “You are even justifying yourself to me!” We feel we have to justify ourselves and give extremely good reasons for saying no. Even when the reason is simply: “I don’t want to.”
Check-in
With
Yourself
I asked my client what was one thing she could do to work on this. She
suggested she start checking in with herself before saying yes or no.
You can ask yourself, “Is this right for me?” Support yourself
in doing what feels right and well with you. And if it’s not something
for you, try expressing that no.
Have
Fun With It!
Saying no doesn’t have to be serious or angry. My client also wanted
to lighten up, so I recommended she try stirring it up a little, to have
fun with it. You can try out different responses like, “Nope, never
as long as I live” or “Baby sit your kids - are you crazy?”
What are some other great responses you can try to make 'saying no' more
fun?
Make
a List
I suggested my client list the areas and people in her life where she
had the most trouble saying no. I told her it was up to her what to do
with that list. Where do you have trouble saying no? Is it perhaps time
to have some honest conversations with people?
Try this: “This is what I have been doing. I have been saying yes, when I have wanted to say no. I am starting to feel resentful and I don’t want to feel that way. I don't want to offend you, and I need to start listening to myself.” At the very least, they will have a heads-up that things might be a little different from now one. And - it helps you make an internal shift.
Taking
the Plunge
So what is the worst that could happen by saying no? You might lose some
people in your life who are used to you doing what they want. Living an
authentic life can seem tough. Sometimes there will be unwelcome consequences.
And I say: Bring on the consequences! In the end, it’s worth it.
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Boy - where to start! I just traveled the world for 6 weeks. 12 days in a Paul Lowe course in Germany where I had many flashes of insight, but more importantly felt very alive! Then 2 weeks in New York having a blast with my friends, and then on to Hawaii to meet up with the wonderful, fabulous Bronwyn! (Yes - of course she reads this section(grin)).
We stayed in the 'More House', which is either an advanced seat of learning or a weird hippy commune - depending on your viewpoint - and learned more about how to have fun with each other in the man-woman game. Which we are!
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I'm enjoying writing comedy, and did my second gig two nights ago at the Lismore Lizard Lounge (where else?) with 99% new material. Two more gigs coming next week!
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David Wood is a personal and business coach, and a founder of the International Coach Academy - a global company training coaches in nine countries. He is a Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF) based in Washington, D.C.
David has coached people in 13 countries via telephone and email. He helps people tap into their passion and adventure, and get into action! He works with professionals on career direction and personal issues, with small business owners, and managers/executives. He also helps coaches start or accelerate their coaching practice via the CoachStart™ Program at http://www.CoachStart.com/Mentor.htm