'Create
a Life You Love' Newsletter
| ISSUE #27: 'How's Your Integrity Score?'
'Life coaching tips on having MORE in your life. More fun, more love, more peace, more excitement.' David Wood, PCC |
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1.
Announcements/Offers
2. FEATURE: 'How's Your Integrity Score?'
3. The Personal Touch
4. About the 'Create a Life You Love' Newsletter
1.
ANNOUNCEMENTS/ OFFERS
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2. FEATURE ARTICLE: How's Your Integrity Score?
Isnít it
easy to have integrity when weíre not risking something? For example,
you can be honest with a customer when you donít need the sale, right?
But what about when youíre risking everything? Do you have integrity around
the big issues?
To illustrate
the point letís pick a BIG example that most people can relate to:
Suppose You Can't Stand
Your Job
Have
you ever decided youíre going to quit your job, but youíll do it in 3
or 6 months time? You hate your job, but either you want to save more
money first, or wait until you find your next job to move in to. Imagine
youíre in this very situation.
Many of you will know this can be a VERY uncomfortable position! Your manager, blissfully unaware that youíre going to leave, wants to give you more responsibility. She wants to introduce you to that new account. You KNOW they should instead be phasing you out, and using you to train your replacement. But you keep your mouth shut because if they know youíre planning to leave, they might just fire you on the spot ñ right? Before youíre readyÖ.
This, my friend, is a perfect integrity challenge.
Angela's
Challenge
One
of my favourite clients, Angela, was trying to handle her work stress
at a job she was planning on leaving in the near future. After a few minutes
we worked out the real reason for her stress and lack of focus was that
she was not in integrity about her leaving. She hadnít told anyone at
work that she was quitting soon. The tension of trying to maintain a fake
front ñ of doing her current job, yet yearning for her new career was
draining her energy.
Naturally, the idea of being straight with her boss and risking losing her job 3 months too soon didnít appeal to Angela: ìI donít want to get canned before I am ready to quit!î she said.
(Note: In the online recording of this session, I also share with Angela my story of transitioning out of my last job ñ where I knew I was leaving, but not for six months! Do you think I faked it for 6 months, or came clean? And did I get fired? See below for the link.)
The
Terrible Cost
It
was then we examined what being ëless than straightí was costing her -
the enormous drain on her every day. She knew she was probably hurting
her company ñ people who had treated her well. She hated having to keep
her vision of the perfect job secret. And it was hard to pretend to be
interested in projects that would be gone from her life in 3 monthís time.
The
Big Pay-Off
Pretty
quickly Angela was able to see that the big pay-off to being honest at
work would be realigning her integrity. The tension from putting up a
front would dissolve. If people around her knew what job she was after,
they would now have the opportunity to support her in achieving that!
And she could rest easy knowing that she was SERVING her boss and her
company ñ giving them the opportunity to use her to retrain a replacement,
or work on short term projects while she phased out.
(Coachís Note: Even if she lost her job right away, would it really be a bad thing? Sometimes when you lose something in your life, it is something that no longer needs to be there. The space created when you lose it can allow what is next to flow into your life.)
She started to feel lighter as she pictured her life free from a job she didnít want to do. And more importantly, free from deceiving people and holding up a fake front. She committed there and then to telling her boss, and enthusing him in the idea of keeping her on for 3 months. We could feel her ëIntegrity Scoreí zooming up!
Full Recording Available Online:
If you would like to hear the full version of this session online, including HOW Angela approached her boss and the RESULT, you can order it here. (Tip: Itís the first clip in General Growth I). Or, to see which clips are included in this library, click here.
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So howís your integrity score? Is there something you are not in integrity about? Do you have someone with whom you are not being honest because youíre trying to hold on to something that might not be right for you anyway? Is your energy being drained by not telling the complete truth?
Risk a little
(smile). If you do, please let me know what you risked and how it felt
at .
3. THE PERSONAL TOUCH
Iím still enjoying stand up comedy, and will be one of the opening acts for a big Aussie comedian this month! (Ostentayshus). Itís so much fun writing this stuff.
My ebook ëHow to Pleasure a Womaní was briefly feature in FHM magazine in the UK, and Irish Radio interviewed me which was fun. (Click to listen)
Lots of work finalizing the logo (still), the web templates for all 8 of my sites, and getting the affiliate program ready - lots of programming, but Iím a real nerd at that stuff and actually enjoy it. Speaking of which - Iím back into my obsession with the game Warcraft II ñ I know itís sad, but I absolutely love it! If anyone else will admit it, send me an email (grin).
Bronnie and I are still learning and becoming aware of our individual patterns in relationship. I'm learning (slowly) how much I still take anger personally. And, I'm fortunate to be with a gorgeous wonderful woman so willing to change and grow. And hey, we're having fun too! We took our first surfing lesson ever - here are the pics.
Love David
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David Wood is a personal and business coach, and a founder of the International Coach Academy - a global company training coaches in nine countries. He is a Professional Certified Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF) based in Washington, D.C.
David has coached people in 13 countries via telephone and email. He helps people tap into their passion and adventure, and get into action! He works with professionals on career direction and personal issues, with small business owners, and managers/executives. He also helps coaches start or accelerate their coaching practice via the CoachStart™ Program at http://www.CoachStart.com/Mentor.htm