'Create a Life You Love' Newsletter

ISSUE #8: 'MAINTAIN AN 'UP SPIRAL', AVOID THE 'DOWN'

'Life coaching tips on having MORE in your life. More fun, more love, more peace, more excitement.'

David Wood, PCC
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Contents

1. Announcements/Offers
2. 'Maintain and Up Spiral, Avoid the Down' (FEATURE)
3. The Personal Touch
4. About the 'Create a Life You Love' Newsletter

1. Announcements/Offers

How was this marriage saved?

I was very moved to receive this success story from the latest reader of ‘The Truth About Women’ ebook:

"David, I have to say thank you sooooo MUCH!!! My husband and I seemed to be worlds apart until I found your ebook. We were in such bad shape I thought there was no where left to go.

We starting reading 'The Truth About Women' together about a week ago and it was as if the light came on. He actually looked at me and said "I GET IT!” I understand now what you've been trying to tell me all along"

We have our good days and our bad days, but the bad ones are becoming far less and when we need to we just reference your ebook to seek coaching!

I know this all sounds so stereotypical but it is the truth. Thank you so much. You have truly saved a family from it's own demise!"

Tracey Iverson
West Chester PA USA
gtkiverson @ aol.com

Click here for ‘The Truth About Women’

2. FEATURE: Maintain an 'Up' Spiral, Avoid the "Down" Spiral

Summary

If life is anything short of amazing right now, find some Positive Actions to give an Up Spiral a chance of finding you!

The stock market is said to jump up and down at random. I do not believe this is true of life. Instead, we instead follow spirals - either 'Up Spirals' or 'Down Spirals'.

The Down Spiral

There are events, then actions, then events, then actions, and on.

Negative events can cause negative feelings, followed by NEGATIVE ACTIONS, leading to negative events followed by negative feelings, then NEGATIVE ACTIONS, leading to ... the 'Down Spiral'.

Greg was neglecting his body. He wasn't eating healthy food, exercising, or getting quite enough sleep. Not feeling the best about himself, he also didn't feel too motivated to keep his apartment clean. Now being a little more sensitive to people's comments, he found himself snapping at people more than usual, drinking/smoking more, and getting less sleep and exercise.

He started getting into work later, because it was harder to get up, and he felt in a way that he now had reasons or justification for getting into work late. Greg then got the flu, had a fight with two friends, and got in trouble at work for being late. Of course, Greg then felt worse then ever ... "no body cares", "it's not fair", "life is so hard".

He stopped calling his friends and stayed home feeling sorry for himself. His car broke down because he'd ignored that knock in the engine for two weeks, and from out of nowhere his girlfriend Susie broke up with him!

The Point

Negative events can cause negative feelings, followed by NEGATIVE ACTIONS, leading to negative events. Enter the 'Down Spiral'.

But enough of that spiral!

If there's a 'Down Spiral', surely there must be an 'Up Spiral'!

So can you remember a time in your life when things were almost too good? When everything seemed to work out and life just kept getting better?

The Up Spiral

Mary made a personal decision one day to be early for every appointment. She found herself actually sitting for five minutes with time to think, chat to the receptionist or simply breathe! For some reason, Mary felt less stressed with life, and took time to speak with more people. On one occasion, this led to her being offered a better job, closer to home, and with more pay.

Feeling good about life, Mary started actually going to that gym she had paid for six months ago, put down a deposit on that acting course she'd been thinking about for years, and strangely found herself naturally listening to others more than talking.

The next week, positively beaming from the way life was going, she was asked out on four dates by four different men.

In this case, positive actions led to positive events, which led to feeling good and more positive actions, which led to the 'Up Spiral'.

The Point

If life is anything short of amazing right now, find some POSITIVE ACTIONS (PA's) to give an Up Spiral a chance of finding you!

PART II: TOP TEN POSITIVE ACTIONS TO BEGIN/MAINTAIN YOUR UP SPIRAL

(OK, so some are obvious. Does that mean they don't work?)

1. Say hello to EVERYBODY. First.

2. Thank people three times more than you normally would. (For EVERYTHING they do that you like - look hard)

3. Give yourself at least one treat every week (e.g. massage, 30 minutes at the lake or beach).

4. Get the sleep and rest you need.

5. Listen. Find out how your friends are REALLY going.

6. Save 10-20% of your income, and have one year's living expenses available as cash.

7. Handle the background items that are bugging you (filing, untidiness, lawn etc.)

8. Look ahead, and handle something likely to give you problems down the track (car, apartment, job, relationship, lack of insurance)

9. Keep it simple. Drop anything that will have you rushed or overwhelmed.

10. Keep the commitments you do make (be on time, pay bills on time etc.)

Enjoy,

3. The Personal Touch

This month we form a coach training company! Currently we're looking at just what new coaches are looking for in terms of training, and finalising directors. We expect to be taking registrations in a few months.

My clients are launching a "dot.com", finding "Mr. Right", and pursuing record labels - to name a few activities.

The New York trip has been delayed and cut short - I've gotten involved in a VERY fun project involving relationship coaching, which I can talk about in the next issue.

Love David

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David Wood is a Professional Life Coach, and author of the powerful Free Download: '50 Life Coaching Questions to Take Control of Your Life and Help Your Clients'. He helps coaches, consultants, speakers and trainers to build their businesses via his popular ebook: "10 Super Coaches Share Their Secrets" and his audio ebook: "Getting Your First 50 Clients".

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