Comments on: Create #41 – The Doomed Relationship Model http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/ Out of the Box Wed, 14 Dec 2011 01:42:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: top casinos http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-6702 top casinos Sat, 01 May 2010 19:56:05 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-6702 This is some really excellent stuff. I'm shocked by the quality of your blog This is some really excellent stuff. I’m shocked by the quality of your blog

]]> By: Anonymous http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-1552 Anonymous Fri, 14 Sep 2007 04:23:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-1552 "The Giving Woman<br/><br/>This relationship model is one that too many relationships are wallowing in.<br/><br/>Women are taught from an early age to be giving, and to look after their man. They learn that a<br/>woman is valued in society when she 'lands a man', gets married and has children. This places enormous pressure on her to find a man and keep him happy.<br/><br/>Combined with this, she is fully aware that she will become less and less 'marketable' as a wife as she ages, so time to find a man is running out. "<br/><br/>Men are ALSO taught this, and they USE IT AS LEVERAGE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN.<br/><br/>Selfish asshole bastards.<br/><br/>And if a woman gets attention for her work outside the home instead, society dubs her a selfish bitch.<br/><br/>Until men and women are taught differently, why does the know-it-all author think anything is going to change? Men aren't going to read a book about women. They think they know everything already. “The Giving Woman

This relationship model is one that too many relationships are wallowing in.

Women are taught from an early age to be giving, and to look after their man. They learn that a
woman is valued in society when she ‘lands a man’, gets married and has children. This places enormous pressure on her to find a man and keep him happy.

Combined with this, she is fully aware that she will become less and less ‘marketable’ as a wife as she ages, so time to find a man is running out. “

Men are ALSO taught this, and they USE IT AS LEVERAGE IN THEIR RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN.

Selfish asshole bastards.

And if a woman gets attention for her work outside the home instead, society dubs her a selfish bitch.

Until men and women are taught differently, why does the know-it-all author think anything is going to change? Men aren’t going to read a book about women. They think they know everything already.

]]> By: Anonymous http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-1295 Anonymous Mon, 19 Mar 2007 21:59:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-1295 Definitely feel ya on the girls that like guys that treet them poorly, my experience (unfortunately a lot in this area). Almost 100% of the time you will find an unpleasant childhood, where the Dad was not nice, caring or loving and several times there was some type of abuse, very often sexual.<br/><br/>They can really be the most amazing loving caring people until something snaps inside of them, they get terrified and can't trust that someone really could love them and they run back to what's familiar, usually their last X, the one they say they hate so much.<br/><br/>Not much you can do with these types of women, they need to heal themselves and get help for themselves. <br/><br/>You have to realize that all they know is bad relationships and they don't know how to function in a good one, so you really can't do anything about it, unless you want to become an ass, but, even that wouldn't work because they have already developed true feelings for you which terrifies them.<br/><br/>Unlike the jerk that their with, which the only real feelings they have for them is playing out their childhood drama's and trying desperately to get validation from the one person they could find who would never give it...and if he actually did, she would be gone. Definitely feel ya on the girls that like guys that treet them poorly, my experience (unfortunately a lot in this area). Almost 100% of the time you will find an unpleasant childhood, where the Dad was not nice, caring or loving and several times there was some type of abuse, very often sexual.

They can really be the most amazing loving caring people until something snaps inside of them, they get terrified and can’t trust that someone really could love them and they run back to what’s familiar, usually their last X, the one they say they hate so much.

Not much you can do with these types of women, they need to heal themselves and get help for themselves.

You have to realize that all they know is bad relationships and they don’t know how to function in a good one, so you really can’t do anything about it, unless you want to become an ass, but, even that wouldn’t work because they have already developed true feelings for you which terrifies them.

Unlike the jerk that their with, which the only real feelings they have for them is playing out their childhood drama’s and trying desperately to get validation from the one person they could find who would never give it…and if he actually did, she would be gone.

]]> By: Anonymous http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-1118 Anonymous Wed, 25 Oct 2006 12:38:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-1118 I would like to comment on the man who wrote that women want men who are difficult/edgy and that women are w/ men who abuse them. That's not true in alot of womens' case, perhaps just true w/ the type of women you are choosing. Maybe take a look at why you are choosing women who don't want you. Are these women similar to how your mother treated you? I'm not trying to cause a fight, just offering my opinion on your general-sweeping statement about women. I would like to comment on the man who wrote that women want men who are difficult/edgy and that women are w/ men who abuse them. That’s not true in alot of womens’ case, perhaps just true w/ the type of women you are choosing. Maybe take a look at why you are choosing women who don’t want you. Are these women similar to how your mother treated you? I’m not trying to cause a fight, just offering my opinion on your general-sweeping statement about women.

]]> By: Anonymous http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-1117 Anonymous Wed, 25 Oct 2006 12:33:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-1117 I'm 42 and still single b/c marriage seems like it's almost impossible...mainly b/c of the differences between men and women. I watched my parents have a horrible relationship and certainly don't want that. Thank you for putting those differences in writing and shedding light on this subject. I’m 42 and still single b/c marriage seems like it’s almost impossible…mainly b/c of the differences between men and women. I watched my parents have a horrible relationship and certainly don’t want that. Thank you for putting those differences in writing and shedding light on this subject.

]]> By: Anonymous http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-1100 Anonymous Sun, 15 Oct 2006 04:43:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-1100 Is any relationship really truly equal at one time? Does it really matter about which role either takes? As a relationship counsellor I've met both men and women who could and do play either role, a lot comes down to conditioning by parents, society etc. Put simply in most relationships there are three roles 1. The admired/loved 2. The admirer/lover and 3. Both or neither! We can flit from one to another within our relationship. Think about it - what's your role at the moment? Is any relationship really truly equal at one time? Does it really matter about which role either takes? As a relationship counsellor I’ve met both men and women who could and do play either role, a lot comes down to conditioning by parents, society etc. Put simply in most relationships there are three roles 1. The admired/loved 2. The admirer/lover and 3. Both or neither! We can flit from one to another within our relationship. Think about it – what’s your role at the moment?

]]> By: David Wood http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog/2006/04/create-41-doomed-relationship-model/comment-page-1/#comment-605 David Wood Sat, 27 May 2006 14:15:00 +0000 http://life-coaching-resource.com/blog1/?p=54#comment-605 Bluuzmn - If you read the book and still feel that way, I'd love to hear your feedback.<br/><br/>And I like your suggstion. I'll spend more time with young American women! ;-) Bluuzmn – If you read the book and still feel that way, I’d love to hear your feedback.

And I like your suggstion. I’ll spend more time with young American women! ;-)

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