Comments on: MM #68: A Coaching Technique (Part II)

By: Ilana Semo Ben tal

Ilana Semo Ben tal — Sat, 06 Jan 2007 01:18:00 +0000

i absolutely agree to what Tom’s talking abou! I’ve had many nore than a few experiences in my life- when waiting for cleareity was excectly the right thing to do!(and i’m emphasizing the words-TO DO..) for those who finds it a bit “strange” and “impossible” – you can call it simple intuition! we all have it – however- many do not allow thenself to go with it and trust there intuition.I wormly invite you to do so … you’ll be amazed with what will happend in your life and business. go for it! what do you have to loose?

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sat, 07 Oct 2006 01:25:00 +0000

sounds to me like the old addage’Just sleep on it” – ever had a problem, gone to sleep that night and in the shower the next morning the light goes on?

OR howabout the concept of “waiting on God instead of running before Him?” Just a thought

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Tue, 03 Oct 2006 17:18:00 +0000

A wealth of information and what would make it even more enjoyable to read would be more images/pictures to break up the text (especially for us visually referenced people.)

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 01 Oct 2006 09:25:00 +0000

so many words and not 1 word of wisdom to justify the time it took to glance over it.
bunch of nonsense
brrrr ….

By: David Wood

David Wood — Thu, 14 Sep 2006 23:12:00 +0000

I ALSO see the benefit of massive action. And in acting fast. I often fire from the hip – shooting off actions and let the chips fall; it’s a fun way to live. Take the action and then see what’s next.

However, Tom’s article kind of clicks into place for me.

Paul Lowe speaks of ‘letting go’, and ‘being’. He says he ‘does nothing’. Of course that’s not true – he takes action, but I think he means he doesn’t chase things or push to make them happen. He responds to life and acts on impulse if it feels right. He does seem to wait for things to come to him to see what the universe ‘wants’. And I’ve heard of him speak of seeing ‘what wants to happen’.

My friend Tony Fitzgerald once told me of ‘candling’. Projects you don’t have time for right now, or that don’t feel ‘right’, can be pictured as candles gently placed on the shelf. It’s not like they have disappeared – they have are just patiently awaiting their time. I have a dozen such projects that like to think are just waiting for their time to come. Someone will appear that will be just perfect to run with Project 6! It’s a comforting thought and feeling for an entrepreneur with not enough time to make everything happen at once.

For example I’ve wanted to own property for about 8 years now. But I’m not willing to spend the time required to research it, plus I was investing heavily in my business. A few months ago I met a woman I trust 100%, with the drive and skills to represent me in the property game. Three weeks ago I become a home owner Last week I met a 31 year old woman who owns 35 properties….and it’s just possible that with her help and contacts I’ll own another four inside a month.

Lastly, I have some personal things in my life that I’ve felt some angst about – like ‘what should I do about this?’ or ‘what will happen with this?’ This concept of ‘waiting for clarity’ gives me a feeling of peace…that I can allow it to unfold.

In Robert Heinlein’s amazing cult book ‘Stranger in a Strange Land’, the main character Michael Valentine Smith (from Mars) always says ‘waiting is’, and ‘until waiting is filled’. Beautiful. You grok? I’m starting to.

David

By: tclong

tclong — Wed, 13 Sep 2006 02:12:00 +0000

Tom talks about how waiting for clarity in terms of achieving something that is desired rather than following an impulse can more easily and effectively fulfill that desire. I agree. My experience has also been that waiting for clarity has shown me that my original desire wouldn’t fulfill me nearly as much as the *new* desire that waiting for clarity brought to me.

Real Life Example: We have been looking for a house in a particular neighborhood that is within walking distance of our church and my son’s school. It’s also on the same side of town as my office, so this move would save our gasoline budget over $200 per month. A house finally went on the market a couple of months ago and I liked the house and was ready to make an offer. Very impulsive of me. My wife, however, had some concerns about the size of the house and the layout of rooms. The house was also quite a bit out of our price range. So, rather than jump on the opportunity, we decided to wait and see how quickly (or not) the house sold. This also gave us the time to decide of this was really the house for us. Three weeks ago, we received a phone call from some friends who knew another family in that same neighborhood who were about to put their house on the market. The layout was a better fit for our family, it was the right size, and we were able to negotiate the exact price that we could afford.