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Direction of Life

Posted by David Wood

The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.

Ingrid: Look, I have to admit, I was in year ten when we were told we had to start to choose our subjects and our direction in life, our future careers, and I thought I wanted to be a physiotherapist, David. Then I went and did work experience, and I could not get out of there fast enough at the end of the day.

David: Right, right. So you bring up a great point, and I’m sure there are a lot of listeners out there who are thinking, ‘Maybe I want to be a photographer; maybe I want to be an actor.’ but what happens is, we box ourselves, and we think, ‘I have to quit my job and go and study that, or I have to stick with my job.’ What about the middle ground? If you want to be a photographer, and you think that might be a great career, go and do a photography course. Do it as a hobby and see if you can start getting a little bit of money for it. Maybe at some point you’ll cut back your current job and transition into photography, or at some point you’ll quit.

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Determining Your Goals

Posted by David Wood

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

Client: I love music. I love listening to music.

David: Great. So what are two or three different jobs that involve listening to music?

Client: Um. I don’t know. I just went to a concert last week. I would love to be one of those people who help organize their tour. Yeah, that would be fun.

David: Wow. That’s great.

Client: Like, a tour promoter or just actually traveling with the band. Not necessarily making music, but helping them get their music around.

David: Yeah. Write that down. That would be fun.

Client: Yeah, that would be.

David: Now, when you do your list, you’re going to give them scores on different for each of the jobs. Just write down like twenty or thirty and then go along and score them. One of the scores will be for ease of entry. Some of them will have a really low score, because you’ll be like, ‘Oh, I don’t know how to get into that.’ Other will have a high score, like organizing tours. That can’t be hard to get into. You get hired as an assistant. You don’t apply – it’s just based on how enthusiastic you are. You jump in and get some experience, and then you just go from there.

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Relationship Boundaries

Posted by David Wood

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: So, my invitation to you is, draw the boundaries so you know how far it goes. That way you don’t have to wonder everyday, ‘Am I not allowed to spend this? Is this too much?’ Work out the boundaries so you know where it is and then lap it up! Enjoy it. Go overboard with it. Acknowledge him. Thank him. Play with it.

Client: Okay.

David: If you’re going to get support, you might as well enjoy it. For some women, this is their entire goal!

Client: You know, I’ve always thought that it wouldn’t be bad to have that, and now that I’ve got it in my face it’s just really scary, because I’m defining it as dependence. What I need to understand is that I could never be dependent on someone, because I know that I can take care of myself if I need to.

David: Right, you can.

Client: [laughing] I feel better.

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Following Your Passion

Posted by David Wood

The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.

Ingrid: So on that David, is it an important thing to follow your passion?

David: Ingrid, what a silly question! Are you really going to ask me that question, seriously? Look, there was a time when we were very focused on survival, and some people still are, but more and more people are realizing that they can feed themselves, have a roof over their head, and they don’t have to just survive anymore. It’s not a case where you have to take one job and keep it for life. There are so many options these days. Why not follow your passion? Do you want to be lying there on your deathbed going, ‘Well, I kept that same job for fifty years and I’m so proud of myself.’ or do you want to say, ‘I fully experienced everything I could.’

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Unconfident about Confidence

Posted by David Wood

The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: Say you’ve been saying in your mind, ‘Oh, lacking confidence is terrible and bad, and that’s why, you know…’ While you have that, I think you’ll constantly be trying to fix it, and the irony is, that’s what’s going to stop you from having it.

Client: Mm hmm!

David: You’re unconfident about your confidence.

Client: [laughing] Yes.

David: At some point, here’s what’s going to happen to you. You’re going to wake up one day and realize ‘Oh, this is me. All of it is just me, and that’s fine. When I feel confident, then I feel confident; and when I feel unconfident, I feel unconfident. I can be a real timid little dear sometimes, and that’s a part of me that I want to start to get to know.

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Anna Dargitz on Finding Initial Clients

Posted by David Wood

The following is taken from David’s interview with Anna Dargitz in 10 Super Coaches.

What method did you find most effective in getting your initial clients?

I had some ideas about the universal law of attraction from my depth psychology and world religions work and from Thomas Leonard’s book, The Portable Coach. But, as indicated, I knew of no coaches, workbooks or resources that could guide me… step by step, to use the law to market my business.

It took over a year and a half to create The Authentic Marketer, but we were highly motivated and dedicated to see it to completion. The process of writing it accelerated our proficiencies in the area of attraction. The step-by-step workbook is about who we are beyond name and personality, and how to share it with grace and ease. It focuses on the universal laws that govern our whole world not just how many paying clients we have. When I changed my definition of success from “how many paying clients I have” to “how powerfully I help others express their Whole Self”, I became extremely successful on my own terms.

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Anna Dargitz on Finding Initial Clients