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The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.

Client:         My partner says, ‘How’s he going to change all these A type people to something different?’

David:         What is an A type person?

Client:         They never sit still; never stop thinking.

David:         And who is she referring to?

Client:         Me.

David:         Oh, and how am I going to change an A type person?

Client:         Yeah. How’s anyone going to change me, calm me down or whatever?

David:         We will see this week. What it takes ultimately for everyone is the awareness of it. It’s not like someone just telling you. It can take from a day to ten years depending on where you are at this stage. But we can start with building your awareness. If you resist it, that’s okay. Notice it every step of the way. Here are a couple of ways to achieve this – set targets you can actually achieve. One of them is called double padding. You set the target for each day; estimate how long each will take and double the time. Say it’s going to take 7 hours, so you double pad it saying it’s going to take 14 hours. You know the funny thing is it really does take 14 hours – you are just telling your brain you are double padding. Another thing is to set spaces in your day, like an hour space in the afternoon. It’s a good way to do the experiment if you are willing to go for it. You’re paying for this, so you might as well use it.