The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: If you just try to handle eating alone, that’s not easy because the rest of your life is a little bit in disarray. So if you try exercise alone, that’s not easy because you feel bloated, because you just ate some bad foods. If you take on the whole list… One of my things was to exercise, so I find if I go out and rock climb one night, I am not drinking alcohol, I feel like healthy foods and I am not watching any movies. Plus, I’m spending time with my partner, because she comes with me.
Client: That’s right.
David: So, I’m in this positive cycle, and it’s not even taking any effort. I didn’t even know I was doing it until I just told you the list.
Client: Yeah.
David: So what I invite you to do for this week – and to send me by the end of tomorrow – is the list of the ‘practices that support you’ and the ‘practices that abuse you’. Print it out and put it up on a wall somewhere at home. Maybe give it to your partner as well, as your partner often notices things that you’re doing or that don’t support you.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
Client: I just felt like driving. I thought I could just keep driving, and driving, and driving.
David: Right.
Client: No worry about where I’m driving to, just keep driving.
David: Well you’re allowed to do that. Now you put something down near the bottom of the form, where you said, ‘I want to find ways of loving me and nurturing me.’
Client: Yeah.
David: Now I think that you’re doing that. I think that’s exactly where you are. I set up a context or a perspective for this call before we spoke, and the context that I created was healing and nurturing. I think you’re doing that. When you go to a therapist, you are loving yourself. You’re saying, ‘I’m worth taking care of.’ When you go to a financial planner, knowing that finances is something that’s bothering you, you are loving yourself and you’re taking care of yourself.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Well it’s not quite a plan but it’s the beginning of a plan.
Client: Yeah.
David: Awesome. You got a pen?
Client: Yeah. I’m taking notes.
David: All right, you’re going to love this. Lots of stuff to soak up, so actually I might even send you a copy of the recording because I think there’ll be a lot here. Okay. To start, the writing of the article, I would suggest if you do this you don’t just do one. Writing articles, in fact everything you do here, should be part of a long-term plan. If you’re going to do the article approach, great. Work out when every single month you’re going to sit down and write your article. Have your list of journals or magazines that you’re going to send it to, and cultivate a relationship with them, and get yourself published every month.
Client: Every month?
David: Well, or every quarter or whatever it is, but it’s a system rather than – because it’s so easy to come up with 20 good ideas and try and do them all, but you may not get any impact out of it until the sixth month, when people start to know who you are and they’ve read your second article. So, if you are going to do this one.
