The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
David: I’d like to clarify, are you saying you want to coach her, make a contribution to her because she helped you out a lot
Ah no, not necessarily that, it’s just that she seems the ideal sort of person and she be compatible with
David: Ok Terry, I want you to forget everything I said before
Yeah Ok
David: How do you feel about saying what you just told me?
Yeah
David: Well it’s the truth. She’s seems to be doing really well, she seems to be somebody you’d be compatible with and she is successful and you feel there might be some other avenues she would like to focus on because she is already so successful in business
Yeah that’s right
David: I mean what a great thing to say and what is great about that to is that it is coming from your heart.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Yeah. So, the truth – and we couldn’t have had this conversation a month ago without this example – the truth is an amazing thing. It will set you free, right? It could set you free from this job.
Client: But then, where does that put me? I still feel like I need to pay off a couple of more bills and make sure there’s money coming in. I know I have financial support now, but then that just brings me to my other issue, which is relying on someone else, which I’ve never done before in my life.
David: Yeah. So, I think you’ve got some things going on. I want to finish off on this truth thing, because we don’t know that that’s going to mean that your job’s gone. We’re just saying that you’re putting it at risk.
Client: Yeah.
David: It doesn’t mean that it’s over. You can go in and talk to her in integrity. Tell her whatever it is you’ll be doing for the company and winding up your stuff and totally working out the rest of your term. She might be grateful that you’re honest.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
David: Right. Now, do you have a bio as a speaker?
No, not as a speaker.
David: There you go. Se we need a bio, and in there you need some testimonials, well you don’t need it, but it is great to have a one pager that looks good, has your photo on it, says bing, bing, bing, here are the benefits of my speech, here is the title, something punchy, and two or three testimonials with people’s names and the companies. And probably only use the company if you spoke for that company. But their name and their title. Now you’ve already done some speaking. So go back, beat the bushes, get testimonials from people, let them know what kind of testimonial you want, you know, maybe send them a draft and say hey, can you give me something that feels good, and then whack it in. When you’ve got a great bio, and the first speaker seeker you speak to, you can fax them your bio or e-mail, and you’re in. Because you’ve already spoken. How does that sound?
The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.
Ingrid: What if David, you know you want to get out of your current job – perhaps it’s painting, perhaps you’re a nurse at the moment – but you just don’t know what, you don’t quite know which way to head?
David: Great question. So, I think that a lot of us have learned at an early age to stop creating, to stop dreaming. It may sound simple and trivial, but really, I would start with a notepad. Get a piece of paper and write down what’s important to you in life. Now it might be adventure, it might be discovery, it might be love, and it might be teaching or helping somebody. You want to get your core values, because if you pick a job that’s not surrounding your core values, you’re not going to be fulfilled anyway. So that would be step number one.
Ingrid: OK. So that was basically where we start. Blank notepaper and pen. Should you ask and invite other people’s opinion, your friends, your relatives, your husband, and your wife?
David: That’s a great idea! I would move to step two. In step two what I would do is ask someone to write down twenty possibilities, maybe fifty, and really get silly. Maybe include a ballerina there, even if you don’t like dancing. Now I’d include working for Aschio, something like that, and really get out there and think outside the box. I think it’s a great suggestion – go and talk to your friends, ask your parents what they think you’d be great at, ask your kids. Really have some fun with it. I mean, this could be a great project all in itself.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: I went to a seminar last night called Creating Great Relationships. Isn’t that interesting that we moved our session so I could go to that seminar and now we’re in this session after my being at the seminar?
Client: Hmm. You tell me.
David: I will tell you – he said, ‘How often do you hear the expression: it’s got to be 50-50?
Client: All the time.
David: What if it was 100-100?
Client: Yes.
David: If you are operating at 100% and fully in love with yourself and doing what you want to do and I am at 100% doing what I love to do, then wow! It’s interesting that I tend to compromise so you can get what you want. Compromise is a bit of an old model. There is a new model, a new-age type stuff that is really good. It says you don’t ever need to compromise in a relationship. You both can get what you want. There are win-win games. Both of you win so much, that the surplus spills onto everyone else. Do you see how that model could work?
Client: Yes.
The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.
Ingrid: Look, I have to admit, I was in year ten when we were told we had to start to choose our subjects and our direction in life, our future careers, and I thought I wanted to be a physiotherapist, David. Then I went and did work experience, and I could not get out of there fast enough at the end of the day.
David: Right, right. So you bring up a great point, and I’m sure there are a lot of listeners out there who are thinking, ‘Maybe I want to be a photographer; maybe I want to be an actor.’ but what happens is, we box ourselves, and we think, ‘I have to quit my job and go and study that, or I have to stick with my job.’ What about the middle ground? If you want to be a photographer, and you think that might be a great career, go and do a photography course. Do it as a hobby and see if you can start getting a little bit of money for it. Maybe at some point you’ll cut back your current job and transition into photography, or at some point you’ll quit.
