The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
Client: I love music. I love listening to music.
David: Great. So what are two or three different jobs that involve listening to music?
Client: Um. I don’t know. I just went to a concert last week. I would love to be one of those people who help organize their tour. Yeah, that would be fun.
David: Wow. That’s great.
Client: Like, a tour promoter or just actually traveling with the band. Not necessarily making music, but helping them get their music around.
David: Yeah. Write that down. That would be fun.
Client: Yeah, that would be.
David: Now, when you do your list, you’re going to give them scores on different for each of the jobs. Just write down like twenty or thirty and then go along and score them. One of the scores will be for ease of entry. Some of them will have a really low score, because you’ll be like, ‘Oh, I don’t know how to get into that.’ Other will have a high score, like organizing tours. That can’t be hard to get into. You get hired as an assistant. You don’t apply – it’s just based on how enthusiastic you are. You jump in and get some experience, and then you just go from there.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: So, my invitation to you is, draw the boundaries so you know how far it goes. That way you don’t have to wonder everyday, ‘Am I not allowed to spend this? Is this too much?’ Work out the boundaries so you know where it is and then lap it up! Enjoy it. Go overboard with it. Acknowledge him. Thank him. Play with it.
Client: Okay.
David: If you’re going to get support, you might as well enjoy it. For some women, this is their entire goal!
Client: You know, I’ve always thought that it wouldn’t be bad to have that, and now that I’ve got it in my face it’s just really scary, because I’m defining it as dependence. What I need to understand is that I could never be dependent on someone, because I know that I can take care of myself if I need to.
David: Right, you can.
Client: [laughing] I feel better.
The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.
Ingrid: So on that David, is it an important thing to follow your passion?
David: Ingrid, what a silly question! Are you really going to ask me that question, seriously? Look, there was a time when we were very focused on survival, and some people still are, but more and more people are realizing that they can feed themselves, have a roof over their head, and they don’t have to just survive anymore. It’s not a case where you have to take one job and keep it for life. There are so many options these days. Why not follow your passion? Do you want to be lying there on your deathbed going, ‘Well, I kept that same job for fifty years and I’m so proud of myself.’ or do you want to say, ‘I fully experienced everything I could.’
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Say you’ve been saying in your mind, ‘Oh, lacking confidence is terrible and bad, and that’s why, you know…’ While you have that, I think you’ll constantly be trying to fix it, and the irony is, that’s what’s going to stop you from having it.
Client: Mm hmm!
David: You’re unconfident about your confidence.
Client: [laughing] Yes.
David: At some point, here’s what’s going to happen to you. You’re going to wake up one day and realize ‘Oh, this is me. All of it is just me, and that’s fine. When I feel confident, then I feel confident; and when I feel unconfident, I feel unconfident. I can be a real timid little dear sometimes, and that’s a part of me that I want to start to get to know.
The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Now that’s maybe one thing. The other thing I want to say is, I can understand – particularly for a woman – because you are taught you should find a man.
Client: Yeah.
David: You’ve been taught that since birth. That it will give you value and that’s what you should do, and in a way, you’ve been taught that you’re lucky if a man finds you and settles down with you and looks after you – all that kind of crap – before he finally dumps on you. So, particularly for a woman, I can understand the thinking, ‘I must sacrifice for my relationship.’ However, there’s another way of thinking that goes, ‘If you look after yourself and you do what you love, you will shine and you will attract the person you need to be with. Until you become that person you need to be – until you go and shine, the person you are meant to be with can’t even find you.
Client: Yeah.
David: Now, this guy might be the guy. That’s okay. I’m not saying he’s not. I’m saying you are not in a bargaining position. You are not needing him. You are not needing to sacrifice for any relationship. You could find someone who would love to be with you and you’d be a delight to be around, because you are just so loving life.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
So what I did was target this to families, especially blended families, by using our story. So once I write that product for this seminar, the next step is to write one for the next seminar then another product around that. And they will be similar but will target different markets.
David: I think you need two different documents and on one page write the steps to take to serve the blended family market. Then write the steps to take for the corporate market. There may be overlap. Focus on blended families now then move on at another time. It can even be quarterly if you want. On your web site have something that people can subscribe to and you can send seminar announcements to this. Like a blended family newsletter and you even can have someone write it for you if you don’t want to write it. Because we want to get all these things off your plate from the start.
Right.
David: Get someone who is really interested in this. Pay for it or give credit. Maybe they just want to volunteer. I promise you there are people out there who want to volunteer and help.
