The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Well, it might be the hardest, but I just want to find out what was most valuable for you out of what we touched on in this session.
Client: Um, well to not think that I know what’s best for my family.
David: Wow!
Client: Yeah. Listen to what they have to say.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: How often do you work out?
Client: I got sick again, so I haven’t again, but I try to go at least four times a week.
David: How often do you work out?
Client: Well lately it’s been – I haven’t since I moved here, so it’s been once or twice.
David: Okay, so is that something that would support you if you worked out four times a week, something that would –
Client: Oh yeah.
David: – help your brain chill out?
Client: Absolutely.
David: Okay, so what’s it going to take to have you exercise four times a week?
Client: I just need to get more disciplined with the hours I spend at work, and ensure that I get some more sleep than I’m getting. I’m –
David: I’ve got a little warning bell going off.
Client: What’s that?
David: When someone says, ‘I’ve just got to get more disciplined,’ or, ‘I’ve just got to do it,’ that doesn’t always, in fact, it often doesn’t equate to doing it.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
David: So let’s just see if we can cover all the rules here. It has been quite a fast session for me where you get right into something. The time flies. Ok so we have. Oh the other element how about paying on time.
Ok
David: What a great way to demonstrate commitment. And last thing I can think of is that they have been ready for the call.
Ok. So they are ready with their notebook, their homework which I should now have a copy of.
David: And that they have generated what they want to cover in the call. Ok. It’s a real passive stance when they have come along to the call and say ok now what?
That will give me time to look over the material and…
David: Exactly and even if you don’t do that you can even work out what their actions could be for the next week. Have them do the coaching themselves so they can come up with solutions rather than rely on you. Ok and then you can build on what they do rather then replacing what they would do.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
They will look for coaching.
David: That’s a bit of a myth. For you and I coaching is a big word, but they might be more likely to type in career advice or career direction. Try this, go to overture.com and look for the search suggestion box. You can see what people are searching for. You can even put in dream and see what comes out in dream and see if it is find a dream career or discover your dream career. I’m guessing for you the most searched phrase would be new career.
David: You might find 4 key words that work for you life career direction and you have it. It’s going to be hard to compete with everyone around the world for even career direction. And if you get someone from the UK, it probably doesn’t do any good. They want to find someone on hometown. So for whatever key words you choose add Melbourne. You can go for career direction, or career coaching, another word that should be prominent is Melbourne and Australia. You will get plenty of traffic and the right kind of traffic rather than if you were to go too broad.
Yes.
David: Key words. You can’t go for too many on each page. Let’s say you want your home page to have the keywords” career coaching, Melbourne and Australia. That would work out fine. Make sure each of these words or phrases are mentioned 4 or 5 times on your page. That way when you submit it to the search engines they will rate highly.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: So it’s kind of like getting back to little kiddie times, back to five years old, when there really are no agendas. You just, you know, ‘What am I going to do now?’ and everything you do is perfect. Now you don’t have to live like that, and you might find that you resist it every five seconds because you’re like, ‘Now I’ve got to create a problem. I’ve got to create that there’s somewhere else to get to and I’m not there.’
Client: I’ve already got a pretty good list of those.
David: Yeah, you already got that.
Client: I already tell everyone. That’s how I talk, ‘I just have t o get to June. I just have to get to September. I just have to get to December.’
David: Yes, so you’ve played that game for a while. My invitation to you for this week is to play this other game called That’s Something I Made Up, and for this week, ‘I don’t actually have to get anywhere. I give myself permission to play any games I want to play, including sending out flyers.’ It doesn’t mean you can’t be in action. That’s a completely separate conversation. You know, when you’re out for a drive in the country, you can drive fast at times, and you can say, ‘Hey, where is this place on the map? I might go and check that out and have a cup of coffee.’ You can still do stuff if you want. The difference is you don’t have to. It’s all a bonus. You’d actually be taking on that this week where everything you do is perfect, and you actually cannot make a mistake even if you try; the mistake is perfect. That’s a big gift to give yourself, and I don’t know if you want to give yourself that, but do you want to take on that game?
Client: Okay.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: I’ve got an idea. Is it possible that at least one day out of the past 365 that you’ve set yourself targets that cannot actually be achieved in a day?
Client: [Laughing] Yes. A lot more than one, I would think.
David: Is it possible that could be a factor in your frustration?
Client: Yes, probably so.
David: Right.
Client: That’s why it is hard to not get frustrated if you have goals, and don’t achieve them. It’s a permanent state of frustration.
David: I can relate. I spent most of the last year in that space. At the end of each day I was constantly frustrated because I wouldn’t have achieved everything that I had said I wanted to. I have some quotes for you that will set the scene, and then I’ll get practical. So, ‘When you die, your inbox will not be empty.’ Right?
Client: Yeah.
David: Actually, I’m going to leave it at one quote. So that’s always going to happen. Now, I wonder what it would be like for you, I really do, to set targets for the next 7 days that you could actually hit – and hit them.
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