The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: If mama ain’t happy, ain’t no one happy!

Client: Very true!

David: So it’s just smart, and it’ll save you time. Rather than focusing your attention on yourself, focus more of it on her. The other advantage of that is she’s more intuitive. So she’ll know when you need a break; she’ll know when this is right for you; she’ll know when this color’s right for you. She just… Imagine life without women!

Client: It’s true.

David: So she’ll actually help to guide you to places that you wouldn’t go on your own.

Client: True.

David: So you can actually rely on that, but the question you raised is, ‘What’s the limit? What about when I need something?’ What I would suggest – and this is coming straight from a guy in the States who’s developed all this stuff – is 10%. 10% of the time there should be limits. Like ‘No, that’s not okay’ or ‘No, I’m not going to go there. I’m on vacation’ or ‘No, I don’t agree to spending that.’

Client: Got it.

David: That helps in two ways. One way is you get to look after yourself. Like, sometimes you just need some space.

Client: Yeah.

David: Or you need this or you need that – so sometimes you can put the veto in and go, ‘You know what? I need to look after myself on that one.’ The other reason that’s really good is, women need to know that there are limits. In fact, everybody does. If you have absolutely no limits, respect can disappear. Then you’re all wishy-washy, and no one wants a doormat.