MM #68: A Coaching Technique (Part II)
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2. FEATURE: A Coaching Technique (Part II)
Tom Stone has led the way in the field of coaching and we are very excited he has offered to share his expertise on core dynamics coaching with us.
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In Part 1 we learned that to align yourself with nature’s principle involves three things:
- Becoming aware of the tendency to make impulsive decisions
- Noticing when you are about to decide impulsively and “unplugging” from making that decision or taking that action
- Waiting until you have that natural sense of quiet certainty.
What if waiting feels hard?
If you fear that waiting will be uncomfortable, or that you might miss out on something, sometimes it is and sometimes you will. But the discomforts that you go through while waiting are the very things that you need to experience in order to get to the place of clarity about your decision. And think about some of those things that you were afraid that you would miss out on, and then they turned out to not be what you wanted after all.
Waiting isn’t always uncomfortable. For example, everyone I’ve asked about it has had one or more experiences that they can remember of having a desire for something, forgetting about it and not doing anything to fulfill that desire, and then all of a sudden, at a certain point, the fulfillment of your desire just showed up! If you think about it, you will probably be able to identify several such experiences in your own life.
This is beautiful. This is the ideal of waiting for clarity because sometimes the universe and the laws of nature can organize the fulfillment of our desires far better than we can even imagine.
Wouldn’t it be cool if your whole life could be aligned with the principle of least action so that everything in your life was like that? Have the desire, let it go and watch the universe bring it about? Now, don’t get me wrong here, sometimes the laws of nature need to be acting through your body, mind and personality in order to bring about the fulfillment of your desires.
But when this is happening you are truly in the Zone. Everything that you do feels like you aren’t even doing it. You feel as if you are watching it happen and you are just along for the ride. Pretty much everyone has had that kind of experience either in sports or in some other area of life.
Can you say more about the benefits?
As you practice this (and you can start right away) you will start to notice that as you wait for the clarity often times it will become obvious that it wasn’t such a good idea after all and you will save yourself tons of time and energy and money that you didn’t waste on chasing after something that was only an emotional impulse and not something that would really bring you the fulfillment that you seek.
Another thing that will happen is that you will start to notice that sometimes the longer you wait, if it is something that you thought you were going to have to “do”, more and more of it will get organized by nature. This is because when you are aligned with what is truly right for you, then you are naturally in sync with the law of least effort.
Lots of times things will simply take care of themselves much like the experience of having a desire and having the laws of nature organize the whole thing for you. You might call it doing less and accomplishing more. Or even, doing nothing and accomplishing everything!
Tom, can you give us an example?
A good personal example of waiting for clarity that I’ll share with you is the process that I went through in writing this article. When David invited me to contribute an article, I wasn’t sure at first what to write about. He said that he’d like it to be about something that people interested in coaching would be able to use right away. But some of the things that we teach in Core Dynamics Coach Training really require a more thorough process of actually giving people specific new experiences, so they aren’t as easy to teach through articles as they would be through live or recorded audio or video training.
So I waited for clarity. After waiting about two weeks, I was having a conversation with my wife, telling her about some preliminary thoughts for the article when the idea of explaining how to align yourself with this powerful universal law of least effort just came to me.
That was the moment when it just clicked into place. I was experiencing the very thing that I was going to write about. The natural and appropriate time for the right idea had arrived. Then sitting down to write the article was totally effortless. It just flowed out like it wasn’t even me writing it! Well, I guess it’s a good idea to walk your talk!
Unplugging
“Waiting for Clarity” is one of five unique experiential techniques that we teach people in Core Dynamics Coach Training. The technique of “Unplugging” that I mentioned in the second step in the process is another one of these five techniques. You can also learn how to use this “unplugging” technique to dismantle any unwanted habits that you have had difficulty in changing in the past. All five of these new experiential coaching techniques are taught in the Core Dynamics seminar which is now available on audio CD by special arrangement with David and SolutionBox®.
Learning these techniques to enrich your own life and remove the limiting influences that are the barriers to having the life that you truly want is a wonderful and very important part of learning Core Dynamics Coaching. After all, how can you really coach people in having a great life unless you are having one yourself?
And you’ll love using these techniques with your clients.
Personal development for coaches
I feel very strongly about the importance of personal development for coaches. Great coaching comes out of great people and is much more important than simply learning a bunch of coaching techniques. It is far more important who you are being than what coaching techniques you know.
So while you are learning about coaching, learn how to get your own life together by learning and practicing the five Core Dynamics personal development techniques. They are some of the most simple and profound techniques that I have learned in my life. And they are also some of the most powerful tools you can teach your clients too.
by Tom Stone
Founder – Great Life Technologies, LLC
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Action: Expressing Yourself
- Practice waiting for clarity on a couple of your desires/projects.
- Take a look at the seminar Tom talked about and think what difference it might make in your life, and the lives of your clients: Check it out here.
- See my (David’s) comments on the blog
- Post your thoughts and comments at the blog!
Enjoy!
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