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1. Announcements/Offers

Do You Own Any Positive Music?
Have you noticed how most music is about loss? Or trying to get somewhere? Or yearning?

Jana Stanfield is a motivational speaker and singer, and a personal friend. I think you’ll find her website inspiring: www.janastanfield.com – she does a lot to help the world.

And in particular I recommend you get a copy of her CD ‘Brave Faith’, which I’ve been listening to for years. You can get a copy here. It’s great for when you want to listen to something soothing or inspiring.

Shift From Limitation to Power
Your unconscious beliefs are running your life. Re/Transformation can shift your beliefs from limitation to power – often in just minutes.

I personally experienced a session with Frank Butterfield, which was very valuable, and very powerful – the man knows his stuff!

Sign up for the newsletter and receive a free audio guided visualization and step-by-step guide to the process. You’ll be introduced to the landscape of your unconscious mind and see what Re/Transformation can do for you. Be one of the first 20 to sign up and receive a free one-on-one Re/Transformation facilitation. You won’t want to miss this!

Get your free guided visualization (and possibly a free session!) here:
http://www.SolutionBox.com/retransformation.htm

(Note: this is commission-free. I like Frank and his stuff)

2. FEATURE: Re/Transformation

This Guest Article is from Frank Butterfield of Re/Transformation.com
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Your unconscious mind is running your life!

That’s right – running your life.

Everything you do and everything you say and everything you think is informed by the beliefs held in your unconscious mind.

See, your unconscious mind holds two kinds of beliefs:

Those that are helpful and amazing and push you forward in life again and again.

Those that are limiting and hold you back no matter how hard you try to change them.

It doesn’t know the difference, however.

The unconscious mind is like a massively powerful computer. You feed it data (what you experience from moment to moment). It runs a program or two on that data (your unconscious beliefs). And gives you the output (your life works…. or it doesn’t).

Re/Transformation lets you change the programming.

Limiting beliefs

Here are some sample limiting beliefs (a few might sound familiar):

• I can’t ever succeed because….
• Everyone lies
• Entrepreneurs are very cutthroat and I don’t want to be that way
• Women/Men like women/men with lots of money/a great house/a fancy car/some other quality so I’ll never meet anyone
• It’s who you know
• _____ people are just that way
• Money is evil
• People who have money are evil/corrupt
• People can’t be trusted
• Everyone is out for themselves
• Nice gals/guys finish last
• People are too busy to care
• It’s a dog-eat-dog world
• The world is falling apart
• I’ll never have what I really want
• If I can’t do it perfectly, I won’t do it at all

Every belief in your unconscious mind is there because it is protecting you in some fashion. Each one of them had a very useful function at one time in your life.

Usually, the ones that are holding you back now were originally designed to protect you or empower you in some way in the past. Where these beliefs come from is interesting, but Re/Transformation allows you to shift them from limitation to power without having to figure that all out.

Re/Transformation shows you the belief and then transforms it

There was the coffeehouse owner who always felt stressed about customer service and managing all the little details. After Re/Transformation, he let go of the belief that he was disorganized and flustered. He took on a new empowering sense of calm and effortless management.

Then there was the woman who was so tied up in survival that she had become a pirate – taking from everyone and literally plundering anyone who would come along. That is, until she let that go and began to see herself as the amazingly powerful and capable woman she is today.

My favorite is the man who finally gave up his need to protect himself every minute of every day, particularly at night when he was trying to sleep. Working together, we found an intricate layer of beliefs that had achieved an amazing balance together – both keeping him asleep and awake at the same time. We gently released each one and replaced them with new beliefs that now support and nurture him. You might know him, as a matter of fact…. 😉

Did each of these take days, months, or years to happen? No – each of these people experienced a significant shift in their unconscious beliefs in a matter of minutes.

How Re/Transformation works

Re/Transformation is a powerful and gentle process that allows you to immediately access and shift limiting beliefs.

You then empower yourself with new helpful beliefs that move you forward and support the vision of your higher self.

And it happens in a matter of minutes.

Action

1. Focus on a specific area of your life (money, work, relationships, etc.). What isn’t working in this area? Write down at least 3 limiting beliefs you have about this situation.
2. Pick one belief from the list above that seems to be the most intractable and the most real. Pick the one that frustrates you the most.
3. What person embodies this one belief? This can be someone you know or don’t know; someone from TV, a movie, a book, a tall tale, or a mythic legend; someone living or dead; someone real or imagined. What is this person’s name?
4. Imagine yourself having a conversation with this person. Ask them any question you want. What they are doing for you? Are they protecting you from anything (past or present; real or imagined)? Pay attention to what they say back to you (even if you think you are just imagining it). Notice how you feel and what thoughts start coming to you.
5. Write down any insights you receive from this conversation. What tangible action steps will you take based on this new awareness?

For further assistance, Frank has offered….

Your unconscious beliefs are running your life. Re/Transformation can shift your beliefs from limitation to power in just minutes. Find out how at Re/Transformation. Sign up for the newsletter and receive a free audio guided visualization and step-by-step guide to the process. You’ll be introduced to the landscape of your unconscious mind and see what Re/Transformation can do for you. Be one of the first 20 to sign up and receive a free one-on-one Re/Transformation facilitation. You won’t want to miss this!

Sign up here:
http://www.SolutionBox.com/retransformation.htm

by Frank Butterfield
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Thanks Frank 😉

Enjoy!
David

3. The Personal Touch

In the last ‘Create’ issue I shared about my ‘bump’ in India. After having ‘turned the corner’ I had a resurgence of energy in the form of anxiety/fear. Boy – talk about an invitation from the universe to take a look at yourself and your way of being!

With this ‘super sensitivity’ over the past month, I’ve learned I can’t get away with many things that used to work before such as – multi-tasking, thinking about all the things to do later today, and rushing. I’m learning to listen to my body, and to take care of myself and be really nice to myself. Come up against a belief “I should be able to heal myself on my own”, resistance to using medication, an image I’ve been holding onto of a “strong, secure, fun, smart, independent, solid man”, and my judgments about people who use medication or experience depression or anxiety. OK – I’m experiencing more of humanity! 😉 I’ve gone deeper into meditation and yoga, hired a nutritional counselor (no sugar, including fruit, sweetish vegetables, and most things you buy in a supermarket!), a homeopath, a therapist – all good stuff to explore what’s coming up, being present, watching the mind, and caring for this body.

Oh, and – I’m usually having an awesome time. I’m doing great. This week things are much more than ever coming into balance and feeling smooth. Much love, authenticty, and learning.The journey continues…

Love David

P.S. Comments invited on the blog.

1. Announcements/Offers

2. FEATURE: Shock them. Thank them.

Who would you write to?

Action

3. The Personal Touch

1. Announcements/Offers

Confused about Coach Training and Certification?

Register for your free Coach Training Mini eCourse, which includes the free download: ‘Independent Report on Coach Training and Certification’. Facts you should know about coach training and certification!

Click here to get your coaching training course and download:

http://www.BecomeACoach.com/freedownload.htm

Alternative Relationship? New ‘Poly’ TV Show

My good friend Reid Mihalko has produced a breakthrough pilot TV show that sheds light on the interesting and controversial practice of polyamory. It’s a non-traditional relationship model – also known as ‘open relationships’ or having more than one romantic partner.

If you have any interest or curiosity in this area (and the mere mention hasn’t sent you running for the hills!), then please:

• Watch the trailer here or here.
• Go to the show’s MySpace page and either become a friend or sign the guest book so that the producers can show the studio execs that x-number of people are actually interested in watching a show like this.
• Tell your friends about Polly & Marie!
• If you have contacts who might be able to help get Polly & Marie on the air, let my buddy Reid know at reid@cuddleparty.com

Got a comment? Add it to the blog.

2. FEATURE: Attachment vs. Freedom

“Where’s my laptop?”

My heart skipped a beat. We’d just driven 50 blocks through Manhattan and I couldn’t see my laptop in the car.

And bear in mind my whole business is run through my laptop!

“Man – I think you left in on the sidewalk outside that car.”

And Harold was right; I remember now putting down my laptop on the cement to get a pen, and I hadn’t taken it with us in the car.

That was 20 minutes ago…..a laptop sitting on the sidewalk, in Manhattan, New York.

Something kicked in and my mind said, through the panic: “You’re OK. You backed up a couple of weeks ago. And you can buy another one.” And it was fun to look cool in front of my friends who were amazed at how I was taking it.

I tried to call the restaurant. And for a long…..eternal…..glacial 20 minutes, I got a busy signal!

On the 20th try I got through, and they said “We have it. Someone saw it and called from across the street and we picked it up.”

Jump forward to Germany

After 2 hours of squash at a local gym, I walked to a bus stop and went for my cell phone to call my friend.

No phone.

No credit cards.

No drivers license.

No money.

I had left my street pants – over 2 hours ago – in the change room of the gym.

In under 5 seconds my brain ran through the consequences: “You can call from the club, and get your friend to come pick you up. Your passport is in your hotel, plus a spare credit card. You’re good. Whew!”

So calmly, interested, I walked back to the gym, to find my pants on the counter behind reception – with everything intact.

But what about losing something where it DOES matter?

Just apply the same principle.

I lost the domain LifeCoaching.com.au through inaction and was very upset for a while. Now I trust that I don’t need it – that whatever I’m going to do on this planet doesn’t require that domain.

If you want me to pull out the big guns, I lost my sister when I was very young. I don’t wish that on anyone. And…I can choose to hold on and be upset about it, or create another interpretation, such as: abundance can flow in to replace whatever we lose. It seems there’s a degree of trust involved.

What’s the message?

Well firstly – don’t lend me anything valuable. 😉

But secondly….it’s really fun to practice letting go quicker and quicker.

The thing I’m most enjoying about the ‘near losses’, is the opportunity to ‘let go.’ The opportunity to see my life without the thing, and be grateful for that life, without that thing. “OK – if that’s gone, here’s how my life will look, and that’s pretty good. Hate to see it go, but that’s OK – I really don’t need it.”

Practice letting go, so that in a difficult situation, when you feel like you have lost out…feel the feelings, the sadness or panic, and realize that you’re OK.

Perhaps, in a way, on a very deep level, you’ll always be OK.

Action

Notice each day for seven days – just notice – where you’re getting upset at how it is.

Post on the blog what’s happening in your life right now that you’re upset about. That you’re resisting. Where you feel it shouldn’t be that way. Do you really need it? Ready to let it go right now and love your life the way it is?

Please post your comments on the blog.

Enjoy,

3. The Personal Touch

I’m writing this on a plane which has been delayed, sitting on the runway. Rain and lightning crashing around, and a heavy barricade being blown across the airport.

The guy in front of me said “Oh great! Now we’re going to be here forever.”

I ran through the thought process, and realized I can listen to my iPod, write this newsletter, and I have a great book to read. I could spend about 3 hours here without blinking. And I truly feel grateful that the pilot chose not to take off yet in this storm. And – if I did have an important meeting that I was about to miss – it was beyond my control….so I could let it go, and any image or money I might have received from the meeting.

To lighten the mood I said “Well, at least we have each other,” and he said, “You won’t feel that way for long.”

D

Announcements/Offers

How was this marriage saved?

“Before I found out about these relationship principles, I had actually started divorce proceedings. Thank goodness I found you in time David! Thank you so much from myself, my son, my partner Steve and I am sure the neighbours (because there are no more arguments)!!”

Akua Prempeh
United Kingdom

Click here for ‘The Truth About Women’

Why Be a Vegetarian? And how animals are treated…

Check out this provocative and eye-opening article I found on how animals raised for food are treated. Not for the squeamish:

101 Reasons I Am A Vegetarian

(I’d love to read your comments here on the blog.)

FEATURE: A Winning Relationship Model

Excerpted from my eBook, ‘The Truth About Women.’

In a recent issue we we learned about the Doomed Relationship Model, which unfortunately so many of us use!

Now since most of us don’t want doomed relationships, let’s look at a Winning Relationship Model – one where both partners win?

Please her

It seems a large percentage of men are very fulfilled by making their partner happy. Yet I estimate that as many as 90% of men (often including myself) do not take advantage of this principle. Our conditioning and training leads us to focus on our own needs first, which paradoxically leaves us less fulfilled!

The Attention Game

So how can we use this principle? Us guys can make a conscious effort to give up our own agendas, more often, and to shift our attention to our partners. It may not initially feel natural, but you can begin to pick up what your partners want from you.

And I’m not saying we should do this ALL the time. I’m just saying WAY more than we do now.

Men tend to enjoy achieving goals (Producing), and when women get the right kind of attention, they enjoy it enormously (Consuming). So when men put their attention on working out what women want, and then give it to their partners (i.e. achieved the goals, or Produced), both sexes get their needs met. And the women’s enjoyment (Consumption) is extremely fulfilling for the men.

Giving out of surplus

In our society women tend to please their man out of a sense of obligation, and because they are worried that if they don’t please him, he might leave. They are not usually giving simply from a sense of wanting to give; born out of feeling they have so much in their life that they want others to be happy. This giving from conditioning and fear leads to a natural deep-seated resentment in women that may emerge in the form of anger or meanness – and understandably so!

However, the overwhelmingly good news is that – with the man focusing his attention on the woman – she could reach a point of ‘surplus.’ At this point, she feels so naturally happy and content with the world, and the attention she is receiving, that it will spill over to her man and other people around her. She will want to give him everything he wants from this place of surplus rather than from obligation and fear. AND – because she is able to intuit what he needs even better than he can himself – the man reaches a much higher state of happiness and fulfillment than if he had continued to focus narrowly on his own needs (as sadly most of us do!).

What this means

• Women tend to give out of a sense of obligation, and a fear that their man will leave them
• Women enjoy the right kind of attention enormously, and this enjoyment (Consuming) is very rewarding for the man
• Men tend to enjoy achieving goals (Producing)
• By focusing on and meeting his partner’s desire for attention, a man can also meet his own needs – creating a win-win situation
• His job is to pay attention and help meet her needs; her job is to help him get through.

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You can find specific examples of how to apply this principle in, ‘The Truth About Women.’

Grateful thanks to the More House for their impact on the world and for sharing their information with this eager student 😉

Best Regards,

P.S. If you have any comments on this newsletter, we’d love you to share them here on the blog.

The Personal Touch

I write this on a plane about to land in Reno, Nevada. I’m heading to Burning Man for the second time, and after that to Harbin Hot Springs for some lovely R&R. (And yes I’ll share pics!)

I managed to fall in love again which has been a beautiful and slightly profound experience. It actually seems I’m too traditional for this lovely being – would you ever believe it? Interesting how closely the feeling of ‘attachment’ can follow a good experience – ‘that was good, I want more!’ Maybe the Buddhists are on to something.

I had perhaps the best birthday party of my life – as I turned 38. Such a delight having my close friends celebrate with me.

Thinking of visiting India (Puna) for a month in December.

Looking forward to launching 3 products in the next months!

And reconnected after several years with Jana Stanfield – her speaking and music rocks! You should check her out; talk about an inspiration.

David

Announcements/Offers

Confused about Coach Training and Certification?
Register for your fr ee Coach Training Mini eCourse, which includes the fr ee download: ‘Independent Report on Coach Training and Certification’. Facts you should know about coach training and certification!

Cl’ick here to get your coaching training course and download:
http://www.becomeacoach.com/freedownload.htm

FEATURE: Join David in Bed (the ‘Wake Up Video’)

When I say join me in bed – I mean it.

I’m going to go out on a limb here.

I’m actually going to bring you into my bedroom and show you the first 8 minutes of my day.

Why? Because I’ve discovered a simple process that is responsible for a lot of my creativity. For my clarity. For my direction. And for my motivation.

I’m about to show you, video frame by video frame, a process I use that’s largely responsible for my business success.

It’s pretty quick – and I got my whole business vision for SolutionBox out of it. Interested?

You’ll be thinking….”I don’t want to see it, yet I cannot look away!”

Yeah – I know. Me waking up is not a pretty sight I warn you – but c’lick here to watch the 8 minute video and discover this life changing process:

The Wake Up Video

It can help you:
– get motivated to do things you’ve been putting off
– generate a whole to-do list from the subconscious mind, not the conscious
– be incredibly creative.

Watch:
The Wake Up Video

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Have you used this process? If so – post your experience on the blog.

Going to use it? Post your commitment here.

Enjoy,
David

The Personal Touch

I’m still enjoying meeting wonderful people. Particularly the gorgeous women of NY, PA, and hmmm…Ohio. There’s a lot to be said for monogamy, and…anyone who doesn’t enjoy the dating experience, while on their way to committed bliss, is missing out! My life is now so packed with fun things, people and events, I have no hope of fitting in everything I want to. I believe this is called abundance. And of course…it took time and effort to create.

Been to some fun camps and events, and it continues with a 3 week Germany trip (http://www.paullowe.org/ ) coming up, which will include a Sonja, Goetz and Max visit (my German family).

Burning Man (http://www.burningman.org/ ) is still on the cards for end August.

My beautiful, smart, fun, charming, aware brother Andrew collected my old video camera mini-tapes (from the last 10 years) onto a DVD, so I could see some of them for the first time ever. My goodness, what an amazing trip down memory lane – seeing past partners, past events; it was incredibly moving. So now I commit to buying a digital camera and filming bursts regularly (including a 5 minute interview on the status of my life every 5 years). It may not be interesting tomorrow, but in 5-10 years….

Happy Birthday Leanne (one of my closest friends on the planet and once my wife), Rob and Graeme.

And I had a July 4 party last night in my home – not something you want to do every day (well that would be silly wouldn’t it) but a lot of fun. The lady carrying a manikin doesn’t know it yet, but our paths are meant to cross 😉

D

1. Announcements/Offers

My Mentor – Life changing seminars
Paul Lowe is an original. His unique view of the world and its future encourages us beyond what we normally think of as possible or impossible. From a perspective rooted in his own diverse experience, he addresses our everyday issues – relationships, money, health, sexuality, parenting, career, communication – with wisdom, compassion and, perhaps most importantly, humour. An encounter with Paul is always provocative, meaningful and entertaining. And for many people, it’s a life-changing experience. His seminars and workshops are a rare opportunity to gain an insight into the work that he does – and possibly open the door to changing your life. Plus – the guy is fun!

Meet Paul Lowe this summer in London, Berlin, Vienna:
http://www.solutionbox.com/paulevents.htm

(If you make it to Berlin July 18 – you’ll see me there! David)

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2. FEATURE: Introducing my Mentor

Where do I go for coaching?

One of the biggest influences on my life has been Paul Lowe.

He’s pretty bright, very loving, and lots of fun.

I’m happy to bring you one of his articles, so you can get some Paul flavor.

If it really calls to you, you can join me in Germany at one of the groups in July. (See the ad above)

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Our own individual world

“We each live in our own individual world. It may not look like it, but 6 billion people live in 6 billion separate realities.

The way we see and experience the world is determined by how we grew up, the attitudes, opinions, beliefs and limitations we were given. In other words, by the conditioning we received to our minds and emotions.

Distorted view

This conditioning effects the way in which we see things. It is as though we are looking out of a window with curved glass — everything appears distorted. This distortion is created by our conditioning.

We think that which we see is the way things are, but it is not so. We are actually seeing through the distortion of our conditioned mind and this puts a spin on to our whole life and how we perceive ourselves. It is a huge handicap and certainly prevents us from reaching our maximum potential.

Disconnect from fixed opinions

When we begin to disconnect from our mind and its fixed opinions an unexplainable mystery happens — life gets easier and better and better. Everything starts to click into place. Anger and judgment dissipate, a feeling of freedom descends and a gentle peace starts to permeate our whole being.

Possibility

With that phenomenon comes another phase that keeps us moving and growing. We begin to recognise that life presents us with what we need to evolve into our greatest potential as a human being.

To take advantage of this possibility be more adventurous, experiment, take a few risks. More aliveness happens in unpredictable situations. You only have one short life, and this is it. Live it to the full — and don’t take it too seriously. Have fun!

With love… Paul

www.paullowe.org

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Thanks Paul!

Best Regards,

David

P.S. If you have any comments on this newsletter, we’d love you to share them here on the blog .

P.P.S. If this speaks to you and you want to take it further – you can join the great global community of people who have formed around Paul. I’ll be at the Berlin event myself July 18: http://www.solutionbox.com/paulevents.htm

3. The Personal Touch

I’m thrilled to be back in New York!

Sure – travel is exotic and fun. But I really need to balance that with my safe, secure cave. It’s WONDERFUL to be back in my NY apartment. I’m seeing friends, enjoying Central Park, bought an acoustic guitar to brush up on the songs I used to play as a one man band, and I’m having fun dating.

I plan to be in Germany in July/Aug for the Paul Lowe group, then it could be another Young Entrepreneur’s conference (Chicago), Burning Man (Nevada), and Harbin Hot Springs (California). (I know I can’t do all that – I’ll burn out – but I’ll do some of it)

Business wise, things are good. We look to launch four products this year (one will be a re-launch) and the word just keeps spreading. Feeling an urge to do more teleclasses; to have more contact with the growing community getting these newsletters (i.e. you!). And I’m working with one of my most delightful clients ever – she’s quite a lady, quite a coach, quite a being – hi Joelle 😉

David