The following is an excerpt of David’s interview in Top Coaching Techniques.

Ingrid:        Okay. Now sometimes the hardest thing is to find out or try and work out who the right person is for you, what sort of person you’d like to spend the rest of your life with, or a big part of your life with. Where do you start with that?

David:         Yes. Bear in mind, I’ll give you an answer but you can’t really do it properly because the head thinks it knows what it wants, and the head says, ‘Oh, I want this kind of person and this kind of person.’ Ultimately, you know, you may not want that at all, or that may not be right for you. There really is a bit of trust about the whole thing, but the head wants an answer so let’s give it one. What a great thing to do is take a piece of paper and list all the qualities – this is like relationship 101 – list all the qualities that you’re looking for in a relationship. You can talk about physical qualities, so if you’re a woman, how tall is this guy? Does he have to blond? Does he have to have a firm butt? What kind of job does this guy have? Is he really open and outgoing? Is he quiet and shy? Is he sensitive? Has he got a hard edge to him? You know, really list what you’re looking for, and then what I think is a wonderful thing is circle the things that you absolutely must have, that you would rather die alone, an old person, rather than pick anybody else.