The following is an excerpt of one of David’s coaching sessions in Top Coaching Techniques.

David: So, my invitation to you is, draw the boundaries so you know how far it goes. That way you don’t have to wonder everyday, ‘Am I not allowed to spend this? Is this too much?’ Work out the boundaries so you know where it is and then lap it up! Enjoy it. Go overboard with it. Acknowledge him. Thank him. Play with it.

Client: Okay.

David: If you’re going to get support, you might as well enjoy it. For some women, this is their entire goal!

Client: You know, I’ve always thought that it wouldn’t be bad to have that, and now that I’ve got it in my face it’s just really scary, because I’m defining it as dependence. What I need to understand is that I could never be dependent on someone, because I know that I can take care of myself if I need to.

David: Right, you can.

Client: [laughing] I feel better.