The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Well, it might be the hardest, but I just want to find out what was most valuable for you out of what we touched on in this session.
Client: Um, well to not think that I know what’s best for my family.
David: Wow!
Client: Yeah. Listen to what they have to say.
David: How would you feel about delaying leaving about 10 minutes so you could call your dad?
Client: I don’t know. I am planning on speaking to him tonight. Do you want me to get into this on the phone or do you just need to connect with him?
David: Well I don’t want you to get into this, because this is not about my life. In my experience, the longer this waits – like it’s already there for you to communicate to him and you just tapped into something today. It’s already there for you and you just found a way to communicate. So, for you to wait is to take you out of that space, and it’s going to weigh on you until you communicate it.
Client: Oh.
David: So, I’ve found that the only time really to communicate something like this is as soon as you can get yourself to a phone and say what you need to say. So then you can spend the rest of the evening just free and feeling like you said what you needed to say.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: There is something huge about you and your son, and there is something huge for you about self-care. I am not going to get into the psychology of it, since I’m not a psychologist – they know more than me – but there is possibly an identity you have for yourself as a mother. It might be time for you to let go of that and step into the identity of Kathy, doing what Kathy knows is right. What would it take for you to say no to your son?
Client: Yeah, that’s a big one.
David: Let me put it a better way, what would it take for you to say no to something that is detrimental to your son and to you?
Client: I am confused as to what I have to say no to.
David: I don’t think you’re confused at all. I don’t think you want to hear it or want to do it.
Client: No, I don’t want to do it.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: I’ve got an idea. Is it possible that at least one day out of the past 365 that you’ve set yourself targets that cannot actually be achieved in a day?
Client: [Laughing] Yes. A lot more than one, I would think.
David: Is it possible that could be a factor in your frustration?
Client: Yes, probably so.
David: Right.
Client: That’s why it is hard to not get frustrated if you have goals, and don’t achieve them. It’s a permanent state of frustration.
David: I can relate. I spent most of the last year in that space. At the end of each day I was constantly frustrated because I wouldn’t have achieved everything that I had said I wanted to. I have some quotes for you that will set the scene, and then I’ll get practical. So, ‘When you die, your inbox will not be empty.’ Right?
Client: Yeah.
David: Actually, I’m going to leave it at one quote. So that’s always going to happen. Now, I wonder what it would be like for you, I really do, to set targets for the next 7 days that you could actually hit – and hit them.
The following is an excerpt of an actual transaction between David and a client in Top Coaching Techniques.
David: Now on the fun issue, I got the sense that you want to be less serious and have some fun. What do you suggest there? What’s it going to take?
Client: I don’t know. Isn’t it ridiculous that that should be a scary place? Okay, I think I need to allow myself a little more time to enjoy things. What I really need to do is set myself a weekly time check – that doesn’t sound like fun, does it – but where I check off each day, something I’ve done for myself that’s fun.
David: Yeah, I think that can be fine and also to have something to look forward to at the end of each day. It can make your day a lot brighter. I get what you are saying – that it doesn’t seem fun to set up a worksheet – but without a structure to change your pattern, it’s hard to change your pattern. So, I think that’s fine. So, specifically, what would you do to move this forward?
Client: I think I need to have fun and also lighten up on myself. I think I have a heavy expectation on myself to achieve and I always have, and always have achieved well. I think I actually need to take some of that focus off to a degree. It’s not the end of the world if you don’t achieve everything you want to achieve.
The following is a transcription taken from Explode Your Practice.
This takes time – at least 3 months. So you want to do this sooner rather than later. Once you are in the related to anything you want to sell. Then at overture find out which ones are getting searched on. Get your top 5 key words. If you go to Google ads you want to go for all the keywords. But the ones your programmers will put in the Meta tags will be the top 5. You might also, in your excel spreadsheet, say what the product is like, general coaching mission stuff. It’s more complex. But this is the top 3 keywords for this product.
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