You could have some fun with people, just maybe five minutes, just getting really clear about the benefits of why we really want to do it then you could look at what gets in the way. What are the challenges you guys are facing? You could say, “I’ve already gotten your questions and I’ve already checked with you guys and here’s what I’ve got. One, two, three, four, five, you can’t get fit with kids around. You can’t stay motivated. You’re not seeing results quickly enough.” You tell them the issues. Really getting into their world and then you could talk about solutions, “Here are five easy steps that I’ve created.” and what I like to do is I like to always end the teleclass with action.
Like for me, it’s just entertainment if we just sit around and talk about some ideas. It’s like, “How are you going to go out and get on the court and apply what you just learned?” so there you guys go and listen to the recording if you didn’t get all that down because you can use that process that I just went through for any teleclass.
The following is an excerpt from Top Coaching Techniques.
1. Pick a goal that excites you – not something you think you SHOULD have.
2. Would you choose this if you only had 12 months to live? Reassess your priorities.
3. Make it real by being specific: by when will you have it? How many, what colour? How will you feel?
4. Will this goal fulfil you, or just be another thing to have? Is it thing related, or people related? Spiritual? Something which expresses who you really are?
5. What are the key milestones to achieve along the way. Again, be specific.
6. Work out how to make it fun – be creative. e.g. a picture of the dream body you will become on your wall.
7. Broadcast it. Commit to this by telling three key people you will do this, announcing it via email, and putting a display up on your wall. (If you’re concerned about failure or how you’ll look, work with a coach).
8. Don’t play Lone Ranger. Write your list of what who and what you have access to which could help you.
9. Write your list of what needs to be done to achieve the first milestone.
10. Put your support structures in place to help you achieve this (e.g. a buddy doing the same thing, a coach, diarised action steps at specific times)
1. A clear enough picture of ~what~ you want, and by ~when~.
2. A Plan
3. A goal you really WANT!
4. A big enough goal. Try doubling it!
5. Disciplined Action (How many of us know what needs to be done? See “Top Ten Tips for Committing to Action” above)
6. A Coach (this can be a friend, colleague, mentor, or ideally, someone completely unbiased, to give you regular support, challenge and focus)
7. Something you need to give up (your position, your anger, letting fear stop you, your comfy comfort zone, needing people to like you or agree with everything, a belief you don’t deserve it)
8. Permission. (What are you not giving yourself permission for? e.g. to make mistakes, to succeed.)
9. Support. (Are you hanging around with people with the same goal? People who want you to achieve it?)
10. Other areas of your life are not strong enough to support you (finances too weak, energy low, poor support network).
The following is taken from David’s interview with Ginger Cockerham in 10 Super Coaches.
What words of advice would you give to a coach starting out?
Coach as soon as possible so that you experience the coaching process really works for others. The shift that comes from hearing someone introduce you with “This is my coach” changes everything. Knowing that by showing up and being a partner with your clients and personally staying out of the way so they can fly is wonderful.
Invest in the best training for you. Investigate and trust that you will find the right training. Learn to be a business person as well as a coach. Develop a network of advocates so that you don’t have to create your business alone.
For me the key has been the expanding and deepening of my relationships with clients and colleagues that have become any advocates in my networking circles. They refer me, support and inspire me. My connections with other people have resulted in meaningful relationships and an abundance of opportunities in my business. It is so much fun to create business within a vibrant network of terrific people.
The following is an excerpt from Top Coaching Techniques.
1. Ask your partner for three things you do that bugs or upsets him/her. (And then cut it out!)
2. Find three things your partner does that you appreciate, but don’t thank them enough for – and thank them!
3. Acknowledge your partner for ~who~ they are (as opposed to what they do) e.g. generous, loving, vulnerable, caring, funny.
4. Make a list of TEN things you value about your partner and the relationship, and let them know!
5. Advanced: Give him/her the space to tell you the things she’s scared to tell you. (Ask for something she’s uncomfortable telling you, and then BE OK with it – no matter what! You don’t get a second chance at this game)
6. Ask him/her if you’ve ever disappointed him. Then let him know it’s not your intention. (Note: if your emotions come up in response – let them go or leave the room!)
7. Advanced: What’s the Number One thing you’ve been withholding from your partner? Give them the change to accept you for who you are and what you’ve done.
8. Mark in your diary a weekly surprise for him/her. It can be a trip to Fiji, or a massage – it’s the regular thinking that counts.
9. Ask him/her the Number One thing you can do to make her happy.
10. Schedule a “pleasure session” for your partner where his/her job is only to enjoy, and reciprocation is not allowed!!!!
The following is an excerpt from Top Coaching Techniques.
6. DON’T
Allow your client to be afraid of bigger than life goals.
DO
Use Jack Canfield’s “Rule of 5”. Encourage your client to do 5 specific things that will move them toward their goal each day. Make sure that the tasks are simple and will help to create momentum.
7. DON’T
Assume you know what a client is going to say.
DO
Stay present to what your client is saying right now.
8. DON’T
Focus on what you want for your client.
DO
Focus on what a client wants to achieve.
9. DON’T
Let a client waste your time by consistently being late or forgetting sessions.
DO
Set standards and procedures on lateness and lost sessions.
10. DON’T
End sessions abruptly.
DO
Ask clients towards the end of the session what they got most from this session.
